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Posted on September 28, 2015 7:15 pm
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LeqeHe
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Sexist Parent
I have a male student that works very well with the other boys in the classroom but when it comes to working with the girls he says a lot of sexist comments such as, "Why do you even try when you're just going to end up in the kitchen." I asked for a conference with the parents and found out that the father has been teaching him very sexist things. He continuously disrespected me and told me that what his son was saying is the truth in the end. His mother was not there and so I felt very uncomfortable and very mad that his father was treating me this way. I have tried contacting the mother to try and get her to come in but she constantly cancels on me and does not respond to any of my emails or notes. What should I do?
 
     
     
 
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Solution 1
Posted October 1, 2015 8:05 pm

Holly Ebbert
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In this situation you should request another conference with both parents and have another teacher preferably male or an administrator to help with the conference. I think it will be beneficial for the father to hear you out with support from your teacher peers, but also that his son is not doing very well with participation and he needs to be able to respect other students in the classroom.
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eZuGeQ
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I found this solution very helpful.
  Posted on: October 15, 2015 4:24 am

ymuXyg
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Talking to both parents separately seems like a good solution.
  Posted on: October 18, 2015 5:35 pm

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Solution 2
Posted October 2, 2015 2:38 pm

uWaQyr
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In this type of situation I would call for another conference and insist that both parents attend. Even if the mother cancels again make sure to have another teacher in the classroom this time. Preferably a male administrator, guidance consoler, or just even another male teacher. If this does not work for the parents then try and break the habit for the student. Move him down on the behavior chart after every sexist comment. Either way it sounds like it may take some time to get this issue to pass over.
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eZuGeQ
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I like the idea of having another teacher in the classroom during the conference.
  Posted on: October 15, 2015 4:25 am

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Solution 3
Posted October 5, 2015 11:06 pm

WeHypa
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I think having both parents attend the conference is a great idea and having someone else sit in on the conference. Unfortunately it is impossible sometimes to change the beliefs of parents and the best way to deal with this is to talk to the student about that sometimes it is okay to say things at home that are not okay in a school setting because they hurt people's feelings. I would also maybe think about adding some famous females to your curriculum if at all possible to help teach the student that woman can make history and become great things.
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meXyHy
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An interesting and insightful solution.
  Posted on: October 15, 2015 9:57 pm

uzyXuV
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That's a great idea to show respect and admiration for woman in the curriculum. The teacher has an opportunity to show the student a different perspective than what he sees at home.
  Posted on: October 16, 2015 9:22 pm

Hannah Poore
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I love the idea of adding famous women into areas of the curriculum. It may be too late to change the views of this student's father, but showing him examples of powerful and important women both in history and present could be very effective in changing the child's view on the topic. Although it is unsettling that he would have these viewpoints and make negative comments about women, if this is the mindset that he was raised around it would be hard to blame the child for such thoughts. Show him that what he has learned at home is not necessarily correct.
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Solution 4
Posted October 25, 2015 3:53 pm

vapaju
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The fact that this student is belittling other is a non-negotiable in the classroom setting. After clearing this with your administration, I would notify the parents and the student that such comments are a type of prejudice and sexist comments. Therefor they are under the bullying umbrella. With this said, further disrespectful comments will be written up and disciplinary acts will be taken. Be clear on the boundaries of what an individual family believes and what is allowed in the public school setting.
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Kady Schlemmer
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I agree, there needs to be accountability for this student.
  Posted on: July 9, 2016 8:46 pm

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Solution 5
Posted October 18, 2015 4:22 pm

PyNaTy
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In this case I would call another parent teacher conference with both parents. I would also have in attendance the school resource officer and his guidance counselor to help explain to student and his parents that such behavior is not acceptable in the classroom.
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Solution 6
Posted February 24, 2017 3:49 am

ZaBuBy
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This is a major issue that needs to be addressed with parents and tell them that attitude will not be allowed in your classroom.
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Solution 7
Posted March 1, 2016 4:48 am

aryBaV
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Obviously the students is getting it from somewhere, and my guess would be at home so a parent conference might not be the best solution, the father proved that point. As a teacher this situation is taking place in my classroom and I would make it my job to stop it. I would suggest doing an age appropriate unit on jobs that people do, male and female. And then pull the student aside and let him know that while he is in the walls of your classroom everyone will be treated equally or there will be consequences.
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Solution 8
Posted October 12, 2015 11:43 pm

Xyraju
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I would immediately go to the guidance counselor. This is completely inappropriate and unacceptable.
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eZuGeQ
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I think that a guidance counselor could help in this case.
  Posted on: October 15, 2015 4:25 am

uzyXuV
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I think the first step is talking to the parents about son's behavior in the class.
  Posted on: October 16, 2015 9:24 pm

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Solution 9
Posted March 7, 2016 12:17 am

Hunabu
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I would definitely talk to the guidance counselor and find out from them on what ways they would approach this situation in communicating both with the parents and the child.
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