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Posted on March 4, 2015 4:35 am
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Sapypu
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Parental Intimidation
I was in a situation last semester were I was an intern with my CT and one of the parents who's family conference I sat through frightened me. He was a very tall, very muscular man covered with tattoos and spoke very gruffly to my CT. She seemed to handle it well, but the man frightened me terribly. I could not imagine having to have done that on my own. Any suggestions how to get over such a silly fear? Or tips to calm myself when I'm feeling frightened by a parent?
 
     
     
 
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Posted March 9, 2015 9:55 pm

yPyhaN
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At my school, we make sure that there are always at least two teachers who are in the meeting. We never meet with parents one on one for this reason. If we know ahead of time that the parent is hostile or intimidating we will invite our school councilor or an assistant principle to the meeting. This usually helps!
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neHaGy
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This is an great solution! i will definitely use this in my classroom.
  Posted on: October 2, 2015 7:00 pm

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Solution 2
Posted March 10, 2015 10:33 pm

VadeQa
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I agree with the above solutions, but I also have a solution for your nerves. I have been through many conferences, and the ones that go the best are the ones where I have come in prepared with some notes. If the issue is grade related, I come in with a grade printout and possibly a sample of the student's work to illustrate what I have seen in the classroom. If it is behavior related, I bring notes concerning what I have observed. I also encourage you to take a deep breathe and remember that you are a professional. Never go in on the attack, but be respectful to the student/parents even if they are hostile. Eventually you will get used to these meetings.
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Posted March 10, 2015 4:27 pm

ZutyMa
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We meet as a "team" when we have a parent conference. One thing I have found helpful is to has a "non-school" conversation while I escort the parent to the classroom. This allows me to gauge the parents actions. This also helps calm me down if I have any worries about the parent! Try talking about stuff outside of school.
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Posted March 13, 2015 4:12 pm

maTaTy
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Ask your another teacher to be with you in meetings. We have our Academic Coach or the VP or Principal to come if possible to meetings. I would bet the parents are as frightened by you also. They don't like coming to school. It isn't a silly fear you will feel more comfortable with each year in education.
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